Bask in it

 

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If I was to randomly ask a number of people to tell me something they remember about their past, best believe me most of them would start with a sad or painful story before a happy one. Most of us never have to think about a painful past. It's always there. For a happy one we have to think and scratch our heads. It's amazing how we resonate with pain. It's really quite interesting how we easily reach out to it.

Whether we know it or not, the emotion most of us humans are more familiar with is pain. I mean we came to this world through pain. We only start walking after a few painful falls. Teething is painful. Biologically, some pain is necessary for our safety or it's a signal to some kind event. We feel pain like grief which only makes us human. Grief as painful as it stings is the symbol of love.

Such kinds of pain I call them normal because we can't really avoid it. We will all have to experience it one time or another. We learn to live with it as part of human experience. We only have to feel it to make its landing softer as we move on with life.

But then there is this other kind of struggle or pain which has been twisted. It has been woven as a measure of how successful we are. We see it with how the world is crazy about stories born from the ashes of suffering. We see it with how those stories seem more significant. We are fed with all these stories such that we believe our breakthroughs are never worth celebrating if we didn't suffer and go through pain.

I'm not bashing people who have genuinely risen above their struggles. I am saying stop putting your relationship on a pedestal only after you work through your partner's cheating and affairs. Stop making your children go through hell holes of schools like you did to toughen them up. Stop doing that when you can afford to take them to better schools. Stop denying yourself comfort when you can afford it.

Stop tolerating abuse in the name of you have to in order to get where you want to be. Just stop with the self inflicted suffering and pain. It's not worth it. Stop feeling guilty for giving yourself time off. Struggling is not glorious. Suffering is not pretty. Suffering strips your dignity and honour. I'm not encouraging laziness here. I'm saying do your best, work smart and enjoy the good things in life without reservations.

We are all on different paths to success we can all agree. Some go through hell and some don't. If your path has no hell, you don't have to force suffering and struggle to feel that your achievement or progress is worth it. Your story doesn't have to be marred with pain. Bask in the soft life if you can. Treat yourself. Make your life better. Embrace progress and change for the better. Enjoy beautiful clothes, shoes, apartments and go for those trips if you can.

Don't be embarrassed that you didn't struggle. Don't feel guilty while enjoying the fruits of your kind of success. It is okay not to struggle. Only remember one thing; Be Kind. Just because the universe is on your side it doesn't mean it's on everyone's side. Be a kind human being. It doesn't cost anything to be kind.